Last weekend I was speaking at the Obesity Help Cincinnati Event and as usual I showed some of my before pictures.
Today I received an email from a dear friend of mine Barbara and she asked me this:
After weight loss surgery, and having lost 116 pounds and counting, do I eventually become and stay for life, a fat girl in a slim body, or do I evolve (with personal work and therapy) into a slim girl in a slim body with a fat girl buried under the tree in my backyard?
This was my answer….
B. You evolve (with personal work and therapy) into a slim girl in a slim body with a fat girl buried under the tree in my backyard.
I have buried the fat girl in the backyard but I keep a picture to show others what is possible. I know that by looking at the before pictures I have the ability to move past painful emotions and can come to peace with that pain. Any time I looked at those pictures for the first several years after weight loss surgery I would feel the shame and blame and guilt but now I have forgiven her…the fat girl.
She was doing the very best she could.
She kept trying to find the solution and she didn’t give up.
The fat girl saved my life.
She died to save me and I’m grateful for that.
She suffered for 30 years and carried the physical and emotional pain every day but even with that….she thought that one day there might still be a way out. Even at 47 years old when some cultures consider that old age and way too late to start over, she kept trying! The fat girl believed that it was possible to still live a life with purpose and meaning.
I look back at her now with love because even though she wanted to just give up and die, she didn’t.
I participated in the fashion show at the event and something happened that I was fortunate enough to get video of. This is something the former fat girl in me only dreamed of….to wear a dress and heels and walk a catwalk or runway. We had all done our “one at a time” walk and we were all coming back out for one last walk when a very nice looking man nearly half my age said “I’m walking with you!” A great song came on and I decided to have a good time. Pursing my lips and doing my very best strut, I proceeded down the runway. Not knowing what would happen next was really scary.
Would I fall?
Would I do something stupid?
I decided it didn’t matter. Jared was the perfect partner and he dipped me!
So thank you fat girl….thank you for allowing me to live that slice of life I never thought possible.
I’m not ashamed of you anymore.
Love and Light,
p.s. I’m including the video. Click in the middle of it if you can’t see the whole frame and it will take you to you tube.
Musician, Artist, Photographer,computer geek and weight loss surgery aficionado. On March 30th, 2001, I had weight loss surgery weighing in at 260 pounds. Since that day I have lost and maintained a 130 pound loss. Yoga and walking my dog were the only exercise I was getting until I started with an instructor and creator of "Body Juggling". Click on the picture on the bottom of this page and it will take you to the site. Read More »
"All of Me" the movie
The ‘Girls’ have been friends for years, bonding over hopes, dreams, food, and the shared experience of being obese. But, now, as some pursue weight-loss surgery, their center has shifted and upset everything they knew about happiness, friendship, and lov